My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok…
At a young age, I had dreams of travelling the world, becoming a veterinarian, owning a dog kennel, helping others and living in a small ocean front cottage with family and friends only a phone call away. I never really wanted to get married but I did want kids. I wanted a simple life.
I am happy to say; none of those dreams or visions came true except for my beautiful daughter and a chance to help a few less fortunate folks along the way. Would I change anything? Yes and No. My decisions, right or wrong, have lead me to a very different place. I am nowhere near the ocean, I live in the burbs close to the Rocky Mountains, I was married but now divorced, I have NOT travelled the world and my family is 5 hours away by plane.
My 20’s and 30’s are kind of a blur. There were many forks in the road and depending on which road I took the outcome would have been very different. I must admit mental illness, shyness, lack of confidence, self-doubt, fear and my desire to just fit in and be accepted played a big part in those decisions. Having said that, I do believe everything happens for a reason. I probably wouldn’t be writing this blog if I had a different journey.
In the last 6 months, I’ve done more doing, more planning, and more self-acceptance than I have ever done. So, as I sit here writing this post, I wonder what advise I’d offer my younger self:
- Love yourself for all that you are.
- Follow your intuition and listen to your gut.
- Notice the little things, as they are what matter in life.
- Do what makes you happy and smile.
- Enjoy the journey even with the bad.
- No more wishing I could do that. Make it happen.
- Change your negative self-talk to a positive tone. This is probably the hardest one given my history with Mental illness. Would this have changed my journey? Definitely.
- Be more present and in the moment.
- Don’t wait for the right moment.
- Be grateful.
In closing to my younger self, it’s never too late to make changes. Follow your heart, follow your intuition and your dreams…everything and everyone you meet along the way happens for a reason. Life is one big lesson….