Negative self-talk, a repeating record that keeps going and going. Some days I can mute it but other days it is up full blast. I’ve been really working hard this year on changing that tune. I’ve tried many times before but it just never really clicked.
In January, I noticed a shift in my tune so I thought I’d share some of those techniques I’ve been exploring that are working for me (most of the time):
- Gratitude. Every morning before I put my feet on the floor I say “Thank you for my comfortable bed and for the most magical day.” I’ve always considered myself thankful but never thought to use it daily. This all started with a book called the “The Magic” by Ronda Bryne. I worked through each daily exercise and now many have become a daily habit.
- Affirmations. This is my latest self-help technique. I have about 5 on the go right now. I’ve put them in my phone as reminders. They pop-up throughout the day. I do them for 30 days or longer. It takes no time at all to do and I figure the more positive sayings I say to myself the more I believe it. Here are two I say right now: “I approve of myself” and “Love is everywhere, and I am loving and loveable”. Louise Hay’s is a good resource for working with Affirmations.
- Vocabulary. Removing certain words from my vocabulary such as should, don’t, I think, Can’t, will…noticing how I talk to people and the words I use.
- Energy/Angel Work. I haven’t really talked about this much but it has been life changing for me. Only a few friends know I’ve turned to this type of therapy. It really does deserves it’s own post. To name a few techniques: cutting energy cords, clearing chakras, ask Archangel Michael for protection and using angel cards. I am pretty sensitive to others energy so this has helped manage negative energy I come across. I still find this a crazy topic but whatever helps me I’ve been going with it. A great resource is Doreen Virtue.
- Mirror work. I just read about this one two months ago. Interesting concept to look at your own reflection in the mirror and say something positive. Hard at first, as what I saw in the mirror I did not like. At least once a day I look in the mirror and say, “I love you. I really love you.” or “Life loves me today.” A great resource is Louise Hay’s.
- Bucket List. Most of my bucket list items are travel but there are also some closer to home. For instance, I am taking a photography course in the fall and working towards a handstand press.
- Do more of what you love. It could simply be having your favorite cup of coffee at your favorite Cafe, walking your dog or doing a handstand.
- Being Present, live in the moment. Notice those little things around you that make you smile.
- Remember how far you’ve come. Every little step counts. Be proud of your accomplishments.
Staying in the Positive is challenging, as the mind is a complicated organ. In times where I can’t hold onto the positive, I just try to forgive myself for not being how I think I should be and just be. Easier said then done.
One Quiet Gals Journey xoxo
P.S. Here’s to a Magical Day….:o)